If You Can’t Treat Them Like Blood, Don’t Adopt Them
Nigerian author and self-acclaimed life coach, Solomon Buchi, has taken a swipe at businessman, Obi Cubana, after he declared his biological son ‘next of kin’ hours after his adopted son shared a TikTok post addressing himself as ‘’Next of Kin”.
It all started when Chidi, the adopted son of the businessman, shared a video of himself on TikTok with the caption.
“Nothing do my shoulder, I just realise say I be next of kin”.
Reacting subtly to his post hours later, Cubana, via his Instagram page, posted his biological son, Alex, and captioned it ;
“Ancient and modern, eyes on the ball. @dtwalx aka next of kin”.
The post sparked controversy with many criticising Obi Cubana for airing the issue publicly instead of resolving it privately with Chidi.
Solomon swayed in the way of Obi’s critics.
In a post shared on Facebook, Solomon stated that Obi Cubana’s response was crass because it reminded the adopted son of his ‘place’.
He wrote;
‘’Coming online to declare your biological son next of kin because of a cheeky post by your adopted son is irresponsible and crass. Obi Cubana could have easily asked him to take the post down, but he decided to publicly remind his adopted son of “his place”. Don’t adopt children if you will not see and treat them like your blood.
I’ve seen Nigerian men defend Obi Cubana, claiming that the adopted son should have known his place. “His place” doesn’t exist because he’s his father’s son. Adoption means legally taking another child as yours, so an adopted son should have ALL the rights and privileges of a SON.
The adopted son said nothing out of line, because a week ago, Obi Cubana made a post addressing his sons as next-of-kins. So, the boy probably made the TikTok video on that premise. Publicly throwing him under the bus shows lack of total acceptance.
May I use this opportunity to school Nigerians, especially my fellow Igbos, that adoption is not a favour; you shouldn’t treat your adopted children like they begged you to adopt them. If you can’t treat them like blood, don’t adopt them.”
